So we’re now about halfway through the month of January, and for many this month can be quite a depressing or an unmotivated month. The post-Christmas blues have settled in, bank accounts are looking a little unhealthy, and a lack of positivity seems to be going around.
After doing some self reflection, I realised that living in the future or looking forwards to future events are great and can give you that little spark of motivation you need, but it is just as important to live in the now. I always look forwards to the summer or a holiday or Christmas, but there are so many exciting things that happen along the way but are often lost of sidelined.
I think all too often I am quick to dismiss the smaller things over the larger more exciting things, or I am too quick to beat myself up over not achieving a goal or not meeting my own expectations. But I have recently discovered that it’s about setting smaller, more achievable goals, and appreciating every little thing in life. For me this is how to achieve complete positivity.
And I always used to think that ‘there is always someone who has it worse than you’ and yes, to some extent that is a good way to put your own life and feelings into perspective, but then at the end of the day it’s all relative to your own personal context. And I’ve learned that it’s okay to feel a little sorry for yourself even if it seems insignificant at the time, because quite often I’ll reflect on it later and I’ll decide that next time I won’t let that upset me quite as much, and I will grow more from that than someone telling me I’m being silly. Self-realisation is important.
My resolutions this year are simple but I know that they are achievable. This doesn’t mean that I’m not pushing myself, it means that I’m understanding what I am capable of and allowing myself to explore that more. I want to be more positive in every aspect of my life, I want to stay fit and healthy and have a more balanced lifestyle, and push myself out of my comfort zone more.
And for me the whole point of resolutions is for that feeling of self-achievement, that moment of realisation and pride at the end of the year when you are able to reflect on what you have achieved. And the most satisfying part of it all is that you’ve done it for nobody else but yourself. Because at the end of the day you are always fully there for yourself, so self love and self appreciation is always important.
This year is going to be all about me. Of course I will be there for all of my friends and family as I always am, but what I really mean is making time for me. And doing things that I really love and really enjoy without feeling guilty for turning down an offer, or feeling obliged to do something because somebody wants me to. For me, this is the best way to become a better version of myself and to discover what I really love and what I can really do.
And that is the advice that I want to spread. To make time for yourself and to appreciate your own company. To enjoy moments in the now and appreciate the little things in life that make you happy, like someone holding the lift for you or that person you said good morning to. The coffee you had with the friend you haven’t seen for months, the time you made your grandparents laugh. Those sorts of little things that mean so much.
Let’s make 2018 a year of positivity.